Dealing with feeling behind in life? Let's get you on the right track.

How often do you feel like you are being behind in life? Feeling stress, fear, not knowing what to do, desperately wanting to move forward. I can tell you one thing for sure, there is no person on this planet who hasn't felt like that many times in their lives. In some periods of life even daily, but definitely each one of us had this feeling more than we want to admit. Where does this come from? If we break it down to basics, it comes for one and only reason, which is lack of self love. The lack of self love leads you to comparison and competition with other people and these two are the biggest thieves of joy. 

The best solution for this is making peace with the present situation, with your present self. Because we are feeling behind what? Who is measuring this and who defines where each individual should be in life? This narrative is completely invented in our minds, by our egos of course. You cannot calculate and rationalise your life path. This is not linear and not even possible to do!

If you would listen some interviews of people who are according to society's standards successful, you would hear that most of them still haven't figured themselves out. We must understand that we all keep re-inventing ourselves. And this will never stop. You will never manage to figure it all out. But that is the beauty of it, because life brings us opportunities that our limited minds would never imagine. Our mind was not given to us to figure future steps, it is designed to observe present situation and makes logical conclusions out of it. For this purpose it is doing an amazing job, we have to agree. However, do not expect of your mind to have it all figured out. You need not to, life will bring solutions if you surrender to it. The more you surrender, the smother the process will be. So make peace with present moment.

 

The best way to make peace with what is, is to find positive aspects of the present moment. Use gratitude in these moments, because gratitude is the ultimate joy-maker. Understand that what is, does not have to change in order for you to change your emotional pattern. It works other way around: you change your emotional pattern by deciding to feel good regardless of present circumstances, and then the situation changes. Relax and make peace with where you are, spend less time comparing yourself or thinking what other people would say or do.

Talk yourself into feeling good and expect solutions and magic to happen.

With gratitude,

Natalija